Thinking back to my time when I went through formal recruitment the sounds of door songs, heels clicking on the ground, and Rho Gammas yelling walking group numbers come to mind. Crazy to think I’m now going to be on the other side of this whole big mess that is formal recruitment. I hope my tips will give you peace of mind going into this experience!
Before I get into my experience with formal recruitment, I’ll give you a little background knowledge on me. I had no intentions of rushing a sorority when I came to the University of Oklahoma because I didn’t think I was the type. However, I really believe that if you’re semi-interested in greek life, just rush and see how you like it. If greek life isn’t your thing, you always have the opportunity to drop. Also, it’s important to note that I will be discussing Panhellenic recruitment, but there are other greek councils like ones related to majors, cultures, ethnicities, and more if that would interest you more. After some convincing from my freshman year roommate, I decided I would do formal recruitment.
Here is all the things I wish I knew and things I think I did right during formal recruitment.
- Avoid Greek Rank.
- I know so many girls my senior year of high school that had this disturbing website bookmarked on their computers and constantly checked for updates. If you’re not familiar, it’s a website that “ranks” chapters at every university or college. Sure, it may be tempting to see what people are saying about a particular chapter, but honestly the comments about every chapter are extremely inaccurate. Not only does this taint the first impression a PNM has of a chapter, it ruins your experience going through recruitment. Word from the wise, is to just avoid it at all costs.
- Don’t Have Your Heart Set
- Another fatal flaw I constantly saw during when I went through recruitment and even now, is girls going into recruitment with their mind made up on the house they want. The best thing I ever did during recruitment was to not get my heart set on any house or assume that I would be in a certain chapter because girls from my hometown are in that house. It’s difficult to know what goes on behind the scenes as a PNM and understand that each chapter is very aware of the type of girls they are trying to recruit. I just remember so many girls getting heartbroken during recruitment because they had their heart set on a house even before they walked on campus. Give each chapter a chance and judge them based on your experience there and what feeling you have while you’re there.
- Get Rec Letters, but Certainly Don’t Stress
- I do have to admit that I did not do a single recommendation letter for sorority recruitment and I like to think I had a pretty good rush experience. However, I will say that it might have given me peace of mind to have some recommendation letters under my belt. If you’re unfamiliar, a rec letter is written from an alumna of a sorority, not necessarily the chapter at the school you’re rushing, in support of you joining their chapter. These are in NO WAY a guaranteed bid to a house, but it may help you out. With that being said, I will reiterate that I did not do a single rec letter for any house and I still ended up in the house I wanted during rush, but there is no way to guarantee the same experience. So if you’re struggling to find a recommendation letter for a particular house, don’t let it keep you up at night.
- This is YOUR Rush Experience, Not Mom’s
- Fortunately, nobody in my family was involved in greek life, so I didn’t suffer with this as much as some of my friends. It is crucial to remember, that this recruitment is YOURS, not moms, sisters, dad, brother, best friend, boyfriend, or anyone else for that matter. This is yours, meaning that you have to make the decisions that are best for you. If your family member was an Alpha Alpha Alpha, that does not mean you have to be if you don’t feel connected there. This is in no way saying that if you want to follow a family members legacy that you shouldn’t, but at the end of the day, do what makes you happy. This also goes for what other PNMs will say during recruitment. If you absolutely love a certain house and the girls on your hall say that they don’t, that doesn’t mean you should compromise what you want for others. At the end of the day, you need to choose the house that makes you feel comfortable. One of the best pieces of advice I got during recruitment was if you don’t feel comfortable going to that house without makeup on and in a big t shirt and shorts, that house isn’t for you.
- Enjoy yourself
- I know it’s easy to get caught up in the entire experience and forget to enjoy your time. This is such a unique opportunity to meet new people at your university and within the Panhellenic community. Don’t forget to give yourself the chance to be fully present during rush and take each chapter for what they can offer you. Remember to take a deep breath and smile big! You’re gonna do great!!
I hope these five tips helped someone out and that your recruitment experience is everything you want and more!
Until next time,